Is honesty or communication more important in a marriage?

My stbx husband was a porn addict and pathological liar and narcissist and joined at the hip with his parents. I think we had communication problems, but I think it is a secondary problem when honesty is not present. Even if we had wonderful communication skills, what would be the use if he was a liar?Is honesty or communication more important in a marriage?
Sorry if he's a Narcissist - then the "honesty" or "had wonderful communication skills" didn't happen - they were fiction. Most likely, they were a manipulation ploy to gain your loyalty in the first place.



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They both go hand in hand, you can't have one without the other if you want to have a good marriage, but in my opinion, I think honesty is a little more important than communcation.Is honesty or communication more important in a marriage?
True. Honest communication is what's needed.
they are both importantIs honesty or communication more important in a marriage?
Communication is great, but lying is not ok no matter how great you can talk things out! Honesty first and then communication should follow!
If the person is honest, you can grow in communication. But you cant communicate effectively if there is no honesty.
I agree. If it's not honest communication, why bother talking at all?
How about honest communication
Both are important.

But if you cannot communicate, you're not even being honest in that sense.

Communication is one of the biggest things in any marriage.
I think that both are vital in order to make a relationship work. I cannot really favor one over the other. They can be a social butterfly who talks about anything...but they can still hide and lie about things. And although honesty goes along way what kind of relationship would it be if you guys didn't discuss concerns and problems?
They go hand in hand; you can't be honest without communication, and you can't communicate effectively without honesty.



Wait...why did I get a thumbs down? It's just logic.
Communication is only possible is there is already an honest, trusting relationship there. If you didnt trust him you should not have married him to start with.



So to answer your question both are cornerstones of ANY relationship communication builds on honesty.



Think about it like a house.

1st floor of any relationship is honesty. the 2nd floor is communication. If you never had a 1st floor, you cant build a second...



good luck with this
i would say both are equally important but if forced to pick i would go with honesty, even if the communication isnt very smooth at least they are telling you the truth..could be a catch 22 though because if communication is down right terrible it is doubtful i would believe him even if he was telling the truth



as far as your sbx husband, it doubt he would ever have said hey guess what, im a porn addict and i lie alot, so with people like that you will never get that honesty factor you so desire
HONESTY, whats the sense of communicating if people are lying? i'd rather have less chatter but when you do talk be honest.
maybe it ran in his blood/family! Who needs to be with a liar. Obviously your too good for him

So out the door he goes.

Sorry this has happened to you!

Its no wonder why I don't want to spend thousands of dollars on a freakin wedding!



Woooo!
They most certainly without a doubt go hand and hand
Very important. The lack of either are the main ingredients to a terrible marriage.
since you have a stbx that is the past. I would say there is a whole lot of character you would want to be on the same plain. Honest, integrity, communication, commitment, love. It is not one over the other.
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honesty in your communication is what is needed. What is communication without being honest? It's called lying.



You cant fix people. Just let him go his own way and maybe he will figure things out....maybe he wont. Either way, its not your problem.
Yes. Honesty allows both of you to settle your individual differences. Communication makes your relationship harmonious.
Honesty.



I'd much rather have an honest partner who isn't good at communicating than one who only spouts garbage and what he thinks I need to hear.
They are equally important..who cares if he's communicating, when everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie? Marriages break down all the time because of a lack of honest communication. They take hard work. Nobody knows exactly what to expect from a marriage..suddenly you are with this person almost ALL the time and you learn things that you missed before the wedding. It's all about how you deal with these things and whether or not both parties are willing to compromise or change if necessary. I'm sorry about your situation. I don't think anybody could deal with that for long. Good Luck
Communication is more important. Without communication you 're not going to be able to tell if someone is being honest or not People who lie don't have "wonderful communication skills" they prefer to communicate as little as possible.
Lying and wonderful communication skills are mutually exclusive. This question makes no sense. Honesty is an integral part of good communication.