and another thing. we've been arguing a lot lately, is a little break from eachother good?
I just want things to work out.How to have better communication skills with my boyfriend?
Well, I've been with my bf for 6 years, and its really hard to keep it up at times, especially when you fight a lot and don't talk to each other. What are you having trouble talking about? With me its sex, and I'm recently trying to fix it, but its so embarrassing. Say to yourself that you love each other, and he won't judge you for what you say, (at least he shouldn't.) Start with something small, and maybe tell him that you want to talk and explain how you feel like your having a communication block, and want to discuss things more. And if you can't talk to each other about some things, that in itself can lead to arguments. Money is another big issue. Try to work it out one problem at a time. Good luck!How to have better communication skills with my boyfriend?
ok this is coming from a guy "i was in a relationship for a good 8 months but the number 1 thing that caused it to die was horrible communication skills. if one of u feels like the other needs to give more of something in some area or one of u isn't feeling loved by the other, something i would suggest is to have a system of checks and balances where perhaps maybe once a week u guys sit down together and discuss things that are on ur mind that u want to work on with each other that's something i never did but wished to it would have had a better outcome
- scott (on friend's account)How to have better communication skills with my boyfriend?
your right communication is key. just tell him that you want to talk to him and share with him what you think. or maybe take a break and think it through
We chicks tend to be too emotional and we think way too much and over analyze every single thing he does. Try to avoid this. Pick your battles. Sometimes you just have to roll your eyes and walk off.
Chances are when you are having conflict with someone, usually both parties are at some type of fault. Maybe one more than the other but usually they are both causing the "problem" whatever it may be. Even though you feel you didn't "start it" it doesn't really matter at that point who it started it, it's a problem and it needs fixed so focus on that. As far as communicating goes, remember you are both looking at the situation from two very different perspectives. Try and see his side to it as well. If you find some fault of your own then you'll most likely be less mad at him because suddenly it goes from "It's all your fault you jerk" to "Wait, I can see why you felt that way because of what I said or did" or whatever.
Remember when talking that you give the other person a chance to talk and tell their side. Even if you don't agree, even if you think it's stupid, just listen and usually you can tell what the problem really is. If it is an issue of hurt feelings, just apologize and say you didn't mean to hurt him, it doesn't matter if you think he is being a big baby. If he is hurt, then it's your job to fix it and vice versa.
Most of the time communication is hard because people are angry and underneath that anger lies hurt. If you can bot realize that underneath all that giant anger is just measly old hurt, it seems less threatening.
When you are talking taking deep breathes. Don't raise your voice. Be patient and listen all the way through before interrupting their thought. Try not to say "You're wrong!!!!" because he thinks your wrong so that's not gonna get you anywhere. Try yo understand his side and ask him to try and understand yours. Meet in the middle.
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