Good communication doesn't mean telling your partner absolutely everything, there's more to it than that.
The code of silence with the bachelor party isn't an absolute. If you want to know what goes on then you should tell your fiance and he should be happy to tell you what happens since it shouldn't be anything that he's ashamed of. However, if he wants to keep the secret then trust him and let him keep it, besides he might tell you about it later on.
With my husband's bachelor party then only one who kept going on about the code of silence was my brother, all the rest told me what happened. My husband was nervous at first to tell me because he was taken to strip club but once he knew that I wasn't surprised or hurt he told me everything. My two best guy friends also told me everything that happened because they knew I'd get a laugh out of it.
So in the end the choice is yours, do you want to know or not? Why?And then it's your husband's choice, does he want to tell or not? And if not then ask why and try to see it from his point of view.
Good luck with everything.
Those are questions you need to thrash out with your intended. What you decide is less important than being able to talk to each other about what your expectations are in an open, honest and respectful manner.
Don't make him guess what you want, and don't be afraid to ask for what you want. You might not get what you want, but you should be able to ask for it without feeling any apprehension about expressing your feelings.
He should feel the same way.
You two should be able to talk to each other about anything, anything at all. If there are areas where either of you is "walking on eggshells" about talking to the other, you need to work on those issues before you get married.Does good communication between couples extend to the bachelor party?
I think there is a line between strong communication and having to know absolutely everything. To me that line is trust.
If you trust him and he respects you then you shouldn't have to know every dirty detail of one night out. If he respect you he won't do anything you "should" know about anyway.
Hope that soothes you a bit :)
You should know about the party and if anything makes you feel uncomfable let your fiance know.He should respect your wishes.I'm going to tell my fiance about my party and I'm sure he'll tell me about his.Thats just the kind of couple we are.We tell each other everything.Does good communication between couples extend to the bachelor party?
Yes. It is a secret. And the gender that made this rule are GUYS!
Communications is important no matter what phase of the relationship you're in.
What's the point of being in a relationship if you're not relating?!
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Between he and his groomsmen unless there is something that goes against the moral sanctity of your relationship.
i would want to know what he is doing, if its nothing bad then why wouldn't he tell you and if it is then would you really want him doing it?
Yes! That's so ridiculous, you definitely get to know about anything to do with naked women in his life, even if they're being paid.
we are having a combined bachelor/bachlorette party : )
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